Why Everyone Should Go See CODA If They Haven’t Seen It Yet

I LOVED CODA. I know it sounds like I am screaming when I write all caps, but I will say it again, even louder. I LOVED CODA.

Seriously, I was weeping by the end of the movie. I started watching it a few months ago, and then stopped halfway and watched other films, but finally after a long day and because I was having period cramps and needed to do something relaxing for a while, so I collapsed on the couch and turned on Apple TV. I thought about what to watch and then realized I had not finished CODA. I figured it wouldn’t hurt to finish it, so I did. And honestly, it was the best decision I made.

For those who haven’t seen the film yet, CODA is a movie about a young woman named Ruby Rossi who lives in a fishing village in Gloucester, Massachusetts. She helps her parents, Frank and Jackie fishing business and also translates for them in American Sign Language because they and her older brother are both deaf (CODA stands for “Children of Deaf Adults”). Ruby loves to sing, and at the beginning of the movie, she is singing along to “Something’s Got a Hold on Me” by the legendary soul singer Etta James while helping out Frank and Jacki on a fishing boat. Her life changes when her music teacher, Bernardo Villalobos, encourages her to apply to go to college at the Berklee School of Music, but when she tells her parents, they don’t want her to leave because she is their ASL translator and they also cannot afford for her to go to college. Through this emotional journey of a movie, Ruby learns that no matter how far she is from her family, she will always be close to them, and they will always love her. I got really emotional when she started singing “Both Sides Now” by Joni Mitchell during her audition for Berklee. I didn’t grow up listening to much Joni Mitchell, to be honest, but hearing the song “Both Sides Now” was such a moving experience. Joni has a beautiful voice, and when I saw her on TV performing at the Grammys, I was deeply moved by her performance.

I was so happy when CODA won for Best Picture at the Academy Awards in 2022. When it won, everyone in the audience applauded in American Sign Language, which involves waving your hands in the air and twisting them at the wrists. Marlee Matlin and Troy Kotsur, who play Ruby’s parents in the movie, were incredible actors, and Troy actually was the first deaf male actor to win an Academy Award. I haven’t seen a lot of films with deaf characters, to be honest. The last film I saw was Babel, directed by Alejandro Gonzalez Iñárritu. One of the characters in the film was a girl from Japan named Chieko and she was born deaf. The movie shows her communicating in sign language with her classmates, who are also deaf, and struggling to communicate with people who don’t understand her. Babel was a really powerful movie that also had me bawling like a baby, and the actress who played Chieko was incredible. You could see the pain on her face when people could not understand her, when she faced rejection and loneliness, all while grappling with the death of her mom.

I also didn’t know anything about Children of Deaf Adults (CODA), but I now want to learn more. I didn’t grow up with deaf parents, but I remember watching an episode on a Buddhist YouTube channel about a young man named Alex who overcame his battle with leukemia, and the video showed him communicating with his parents in American Sign Language because they were deaf. I also started to become more curious about the deaf community after watching a video of a deaf professional dancer in Germany dancing to Beethoven. Her performance was incredible, and so I started looking up social media channels by deaf people and was really fascinated by their videos. The Buddhist organization I am a part of has virtual meetings every few months for people who are deaf/ hard of hearing. The meetings are also open to hearing people who have deaf spouses, friends or siblings, and anyone who wants to help support any deaf and hard of hearing Buddhist members in their community. Even though I am a hearing person, it was really cool to see people communicating in American Sign Language.

Even though CODA is about deafness and children of deaf parents, it is really, at the end of the day, a story about family, connection and the power of music. It also has a great message: to never give up on your dreams even if they seem impossible. Ruby is frustrated that she has to always translate for her parents and that she cannot go to college because her parents depend on her to translate for them, but they see her perform at her high school choir concert and they can see how much she really loves music. Earlier in the film, Ruby sings “Let’s Get It On” by Marvin Gaye for her music teacher, Bernardo, and he sees she has a lot of potential, so he encourages her to apply for music school. Even though she doesn’t have an extensive background in music or come from a prestigious family of musicians, Ruby feels the music with her life, and it is truly her passion. However, her family’s fishing business is struggling and the family and other people in the fishing business are dealing with unfair policy changes by the local government, which could put them out of business. Ruby is responsible for being her parents’ translator, so she can’t focus on preparing for college because she always working on the boat with them. Bernardo becomes frustrated with her for skipping rehearsals and thinks she is not as serious as he thought she was, but over time he becomes more understanding and even meets Frank and Jackie. It was funny because he tried to say, “Nice to meet you” in ASL, but he ended up saying “Nice to fuck you” in ASL, which is something he learned on YouTube. Ruby is mortified, and Bernardo apologizes when he realizes that he said the wrong greeting, but Frank laughs it off and jokes “Nice to screw you, too” in ASL to him. It was a sweet scene, and what really got me emotional was when Ruby is about to leave for college and drive off but then she gets out of the car and hugs her family. I cried until my eyes got red and puffy and my shoulders shook as I couldn’t stop crying. I was bawling especially during the end credits because Emilia Jones, the actress who played Ruby Rossi in CODA, performed a beautiful original song called “Beyond the Shore” and all I could say at the end was, “Wow, this was such a touching movie.”

I also realized as I was writing this that a coda is also a musical term, so it was fitting that this was the title of the movie because the movie is not just about children of deaf adults, but also about the power of music. There is a scene in the movie when Ruby’s parents are at her choir concert, and they are looking around at the audience and everyone can hear the music and is singing along and clapping, but they don’t know what they are trying to communicate. Their son, Leo, has his girlfriend with him, and she translates for him during the concert, but Jackie and Frank don’t have an ASL translator who can interpret the song lyrics in ASL for them, and they cannot rely on Ruby because she is onstage performing. Later in that scene, the volume becomes silent and for a couple of minutes you cannot hear the audience clapping or Ruby singing. They show the scene from the parents’ perspective to show how the listening experience at the concert is for them. Early on in the movie Frank and Jackie pick Ruby up from school, and as Frank pulls up in his truck, he is blasting loud rap music and jamming along to it, much to the embarrassment of Ruby, who doesn’t want to be ridiculed at school for having deaf parents. Ruby says that even though her dad is deaf, he likes to still jam out to rap because of the bass. I take it for granted that I can hear and listen to so much music that I don’t even think about what listening to music is like for people who are deaf or hard of hearing. I would be interested to learn more, because even though I am a hearing person and a young person, at some point, when I get older, I am sure I will also gradually lose my hearing and will need to wear a hearing aid to listen better, so I cannot take it for granted that I am a hearing person. Watching CODA also reminded me that deaf people are human beings who deserve the same respect as everyone else. I don’t have any friends who are deaf so the only way I would know more about the deaf community would be through watching films like CODA that represent deaf people as complex human beings rather than as people to be pitied. I also didn’t know anything about Marlee Matlin and Troy Kotsur, or Daniel Durant, the deaf actor who plays Ruby’s brother, Leo, in the movie. I have seen Emilia Jones in a previous film, though. She was in a movie with her and Nicholas Braun (Greg “The Egg” Hirsch from the show Succession) called Cat Person, which is based on a viral short story in The New Yorker by a writer named Kristen Roupenian about a college student’s awkward (and uncomfortable) date with an older man. Even though it wasn’t my favorite film, Emilia Jones was a good actress in the movie. Her performance in CODA, though, was phenomenal and she is such an incredible singer in the film.